My apologies Gordon for starting a new thread I will remember next time also Thankyou Pamela for your advice what im asking is if I tell D.L.A.that my son cannot manage is own affairs will that effect me for I am on D.L.A.and Im petrified of losing it as just like others I need that also as of late my son is g how toetting very angry and hard to manage and im finding it difficult to control him when he reached 16 we were told that someone was going to interview us but my son said no as change he cannot cope with I explained this and they were understanding so he manages is own affairs but with great difficulty and im worried for incase the D.L.A.ask why I am looking after my son when on D.L.A.I was under the impression you can help each other please let me know if this is correct as im so confused im becoming ill with the stress also the threads I was on about were by steve donnison and Holliday whitehead how to claim dissability and it gives you help how to fill in the form im very thankful for the help and for any advice Im given thankyou all I just need to know were to start thankyou all so much